Finding Your Why: 4 Questions to Spark Life-Changing Epiphanies

Today, I want to help you uncover some epiphanies that might be just beneath the surface. These little "aha" moments can be the key to realigning with what truly matters in your life. Sometimes, all it takes is a bit of reflection to figure out the next steps on your journey.

Let’s get started!

1. What are you fighting for?

One thing I like to pause and consider, whether things are going well or not, is: "What am I doing all of this for?" By "this," I mean your goals, dreams, and hopes. Usually, the answer isn’t simply “more money.” It’s what success can afford you in terms of freedom, love, or memories. Sometimes, it’s a gift you can give to someone else, like helping them gain more freedom or confidence in themselves.

Are you fighting for peace, love, happiness, and growth under your own roof, for you and your family? That’s what I was fighting for: a happy family (Andre, Carl, and me). Yes, that includes my dog! I wanted Carl to be able to go for a daily walk without being bombarded by people who wanted to socialize with him, because he doesn’t enjoy socializing. As for me, I wanted more space to do things like cook dinner with my husband, to grow together, and to have the time to truly enjoy that. These are the things that matter to me.

2. What can you get angry about?

Usually, you can change more in your life by focusing on what makes you angry rather than what excites you. I know that’s not ideal, but it worked for me - using anger as motivation. Maybe you’re angry about how you’ve been treated, how you’ve treated yourself, the boundaries you haven’t set, or the fact that your current circumstances are unacceptable. So many people wait for their “rock bottom” to be something out of the movies, expecting things to get way worse… but do you really need to let it get to that point? Nope. No matter how bad things have gotten, don’t let them get worse. Make some changes in your life and start taking action right now. That’s what I did, and it truly worked.

3. What can you change?

Now that you’ve identified what makes you angry, what can you change in your life today? Not next Monday, next month, or next year—today. It doesn’t have to be something huge; it can be something small. Maybe it’s mapping out your top ten goals or refusing to tolerate a certain behavior. For me, I needed to shift my personal mindset. I refuse to waste my time complaining, constantly worrying, and mindlessly scrolling on my phone. Not many people realize just how much time is wasted on these activities!

4. What do you need to call it quits on?

With this fourth and final question, I hope you experience a small epiphany. Is there something in your life right now that you need to say, “We’re done” to? I’m not necessarily talking about a life partner. It could be a situation you keep allowing, the way you’re treated, the way you speak to yourself, a current routine, a bad habit, or even a person in your life. It could be anything that’s holding you back from the peace, happiness, and growth you deserve.

Letting go isn’t always easy, but it’s necessary for making room for the things that truly matter. Sometimes, you need to create space for new opportunities, healthier relationships, and better habits. Take a minute to think about what you’re holding onto that no longer serves you. Remember, it’s okay to let go. It’s a step toward creating the life you really want.

I hope today you’ve had a meaningful breakthrough to help you find your why. Reflect on these four questions, take action where needed, and share your epiphanies in the comments! We’re all in this together, and your insights might just inspire someone else to make a positive change too.